Good bye dear Summer!
August 29, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Alas, all good things come to an end. Sure, I know summer isn’t officially over but you can’t deny that after Monday there’ll be no more wearing white! heavy sighhhhh Instead of the usual Friday blockbuster post since most of you will be off having fun on the long weekend, I thought I’d give you a preview of next week’s chat, which includes:
- Good news! This Marriage Thing is now a featured blog on Wellsphere.com, a groovy wellness site where you can indulge in healthier living
- Bed & Breakfast Review of Arroyo Vista Inn, South Pasadena Would it be giving away too much if I said, the swubby and I adored this elegant and tranquil home and it’s fun hosts, Pat and Russ.
This is a picture of the beautiful front porch where we enjoyed a fabulous wine dinner- 6 yummy course and plenty of great wine- provided by RoomForty.com
Can’t you see yourself sprawled out on a lounge chair enjoying coffee and the Sunday paper there? More details on our room with a balcony and amazing view next Friday, but for now…see more of this charming bed and breakfast near Los Angeles with a special secret
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August 22, 2008 | 2 Comments
Today, I visited my neurologist and learned I haven’t lost any more marbles, but you probably can’t prove that by talking with my family or reading this blog.
Dr. Arturo makes Dr. McDreamy seem pedestrian. He’s handsome, of course. Charming and unfailingly polite. What makes him irresistible to me, and his wife I’m sure, is his sexy Argentine accent….he’s very, uh, yummy. Anyway, while we were chit-chatting he mentioned something at that really caught my attention. According to him, there’s a push in Germany for renewable marriage licenses.
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Which is Harder: Getting or Keeping a Spouse?
August 20, 2008 | 1 Comment
Curious question, isn’t it? I know there are some people out there having a heck of a time finding a spouse. I mean no offense, really. I kissed more than my fair share of frog before my prince came along. It just seems that the dating-mating ritual is oh, shall we say, more fun and that marriage is work.
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Dive into Carnival #82 over at LifeTwo.com
August 18, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Ok, it’s the Olympics. You knew there was going to be a reference. And, hey, aren’t those Chinese divers extraordinary. Honestly, I don’t know which to be more amazed about: their prowess or the startling good articles that Wes has over at LifeTwo, where he’s hosting Carnival #82. Dive in to find out why smart women are breaking free and more, but watch the entry splash, will ya?
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When Is It Time to Pack It In?
August 15, 2008 | 7 Comments
I’m pondering this because of my last post and after reading a question on my friend, Cory’s blog, A Good Husband. Deciding to get divorced was the most difficult decision I’ve ever made. I was terrified knowing that my decision would impact so many lives beyond my own. Having done it once, I will never do it again. Yeah, I said never. I’m totally committed to working out whatever comes our way. But would I advise my children not to divorce? I don’t know
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August 13, 2008 | 4 Comments
No, I am not getting a divorce. Things between me and my sweetie are fine. Friends who read ThisMarriageThing, and sometimes others, presume that we’re airing our own personal stuff in the blog. Sometimes that’s true.
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What would you go to jail for?
August 8, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Last weekend, my dear hubby and I strolled the lovely streets of Newburyport, MA. This cute town is about 45 minutes away from Boston, our home, and right on the water. Normally, we’d spend Saturdays plowing through the last bits of our workweek or tackling the ginormous list of house chores- mowing the lawn, folding laundry, organizing the files, yanking weeds. You know, living life.
I’m convinced that life gets in the way of living. There’s so much to do and so little time, every bit of energy gets devoted to what must be done. What burns my butt is that all of this is in service to getting the life we dreamed of. How ironic is that?
Listening to our nightly conversation I’m startled by how uninteresting it is. Practical, sure. Dull, absolutely. Would you get excited over this:
“How was your day?” I say
“Long” he responds glancing at the newspaper on the dinner table
“How’s the project coming” I ask, turning magazine pages
“Good except blah blah blah”
“Oh, well I got 5 new sign ups today” I chirp
“Great. That’s great” he responds.
Where’s the drama? Where’s the spark? Where’s the door? I love my hubby but sometimes we bore each other silly. Hence the trip to Newburyport to recharge our batteries. Do something different to give us something to talk about. Guess what? It worked.
We talked about our move. You know, we’re planning to move to California in a few years, probably to the East Bay area. The details of the move play in my head like background music- where, renovate an old house or build a new one, where, city living or small town, where, big house or little…where. I’ve got a lot of questions that need talking out and not enough time to do it. Thank heavens for our car ride.
There’s something about car rides that brings out conversation, don’t you think? I’ve had some of my deepest, most satisfying talks while behind the wheel, especially with my teenagers. We got through ‘the talk’ ( no glove, no love). I think it’s because you can’t really look at each other. Anyway, we chatted up a storm on the drive there and home. We bonded.
It reminded me of our early days of dating when we had a nightly telephone ‘date’. I’d look forward to it all day. I’d finish my chores, put the kids to bed and climb in my bed with the phone. Round about 10 p.m. we’d say hello, sharing the day then settling down to the good stuff. I loved the intimacy of those talks. In the dark it seemed like we were the only two in the world- so romantic. I learned later that many of those long, reflective pause were him sleeping. Too funny.
When I say good stuff, I mean the those questions that may you say hmmmm. My mom was against internet dating so I had to promise I’d be extra selective. I crafted a series of questions designed to get to the ‘real guy’. Here are my best questions:
1. What would you be willing to go to jail for?
2. If you were a musical instrument, which one would you be?
3. What is unforgiveable to you?
I weeded out a lot of frogs, I tell you. Of course, my honey answered with flying colors. Trying to express our thoughts gave us a good chance to be talk, be stumped and wrestle with big ideas together. We communicated, not just talked.
So, what would you ask your spouse? What question will help you know your spouse better?
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Prance on over to Fabulous After 40 for Carnival #80
August 4, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Finding just the right accessory, like the darling tomato red bag I got in Newburyport this weekend, makes me happy. It’s gonna turn heads. There’s more to catch your attention over at Fabulous after 40, including my question about women and happiness. Check it out now!
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Women yoomers, are you happy in life and in marriage?
August 1, 2008 | 2 Comments
Think of this question as the variation on the old question: what do women want? You know, seems that men (and maybe a few women) are puzzled about what makes a woman happy.
Well, turns out that women start out fairly happy. In our twenties, we’re plenty happy. But that changes as we age. Don’t bite my head off. I didn’t say that. I’m just quoting a recent study conducted by the University of California that says after 48 women are less happy.
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