About
A 50 Year Marriage
I’m the curious sort. My whole life has been about asking questions and making meaning from things and thoughts. I do that as a mediator and Ombuds professionally. I do that as a blogger, too.
You see, I’m on a quest for answers to having a happy marriage for 50 years or more (my husband and I pledged to be married at least that long when we wed in 2005). 
Because I believe that marriage is a very learnable skill and there’s strength in numbers, I’m asking you to contribute your thoughts, ideas and experiences. That way we all teach each other.
Why Did You Decide To Write a Blog about Marriage?
Folks have been very encouraging about the blog. They think its funny or thought-provoking. The most common question I get is: why did you start a blog on baby boomer marriage? My answer: I couldn’t stop myself.
Two years ago, almost three, both my husband and I faced serious medical threats that forced us to re-evaluate just about everything: our roles, our relationship, what work meant and how we envisioned the future. We talked. We fought. We thought and talked some more.
You’d think that a mediator with 17 years experience could get through a simple conversation about where to relocate, right? Wrong. I flopped (we still haven’t defined what ‘warm weather’ or ‘city living’ means). I realized it was so tough because we were asking the wrong questions and making way too many assumptions about the other’s thoughts, beliefs, and needs.
Staying Happily Married is Hard Work but Worth It
I also realized that couples, including us, don’t normally make time to plan or discuss their lives in details. Heck, we’re too busy living it. I knew that if we were struggling others were either having a worst time or not having important conversations at all. So, thismarriagething.com is primer to help all of us ask questions, explore what other couples do, build compassion thru understanding to reinvent our marriages one conversation at a time.
Marriage doesn’t have to suck….re-invent it!
Dina Eisenberg