How Do You Stop Being Mom?
May 14, 2008
My big day has passed. It seems strange that moms who dole out love and attention 365 days a year just get a single day to be recognized. But that’s another post… Right now, I’m wondering if you ever stop being a mom. My kiddos are nearing young adulthood. Miss Thang leaves for Occidental in August and Handsome isn’t too far behind.
I Hate You But Could You Pick up some Coke?
We’ll all in this very odd space. They don’t really need me anymore. Most of what they ask me for is simply out of habit–can you pick up some cola, drop off my clothes, get some band-aids– they are capable of doing any of this for themselves. And, yet they still ask. (No, my kids never said that but it made a catchy title)
At the same time, they want me to let go. Stop telling me–how to live, what to wear, who to be friend with– they feel their independence and express it, sometimes with little regard to my feelings. I’ve been preparing for this moment for years. And yet, I’m still not ready.
How Did You Do It?
How can I go from Supreme Commander of our household to a rank private and like it? How do I go from CEO calling the shots to a consultant making proposals. That’s what I feel like now. I propose ideas, solutions, advice that they disregard at will, sometimes at their peril.
Somebody out there has answers. Speak up, will ya?
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