Sexless Marriage: Isn’t Anybody Getting Any?
July 25, 2008 | 8 Comments
Maybe it’s because the weather is hot. Maybe I’m just in the mood. But recently, I’ve noticed a lot of talk about sex on the different marriage and relationship forums I frequent. That’s not a surprise. What I find shocking is how many yoomers ( my new word for young baby boomers) describe their marriages as ’sexless’.
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What About Marriage Frightens You?
March 20, 2008 | 6 Comments
This is a 3 a.m. question. I have insomnia so I often get a chance to ponder a juicy 3 a.m. question.
Me+Me= We
I was afraid of losing myself to marriage when I was a young bride. I was frightened of being molded into someone else like a dutiful, boring wife . I’d be Mrs. Lawyer. Not Dina, the mediator. I didn’t want to change my ‘Dina-ness’
Wife +Mom=- Dina
That is what happened, of course, the minute I became a mother. I love my kids; they are my heart. But I lost me in trying to be the very best mother for them. It was years before I remembered what I liked to do on a Saturday. Marriage took it’s toll on Dina-ness, too.
Twice as Nice
Second time around the ol’ marriage block, things are different. No identity crisis–when I hit 40 my Dina-ness peaked. I’m all me– all the time–like it or lump it. Stubborn girl that I am, experience finally taught me a little more about love and what it truly looks like. (Hint: it doesn’t always look like you’d expect)
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This time around I worry about not having enough time together. I feel blessed to find my b’sheert. We’ve been together, my swubby and I, for eight years, with the last 2 as newlyweds. I’m happily married. (I wonder how many people would honestly say that?) Not without drama or difficulty, but it’s really nice. So much so, I’ll need at least another 20 years. My swubby says he’ll try to make that happen.
What about marriage keeps you up at night?
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February 13, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Maybe not. Did you know that sperm can be created from a female embryo? It can. That means that lesbians may be able to have their own biological children. More interesting, I wonder if men will be come extinct.
The op ed article in the Boston Metro Tuesday put that thought in my head by suggesting that women might not need men anymore (sorry-no link available). Women can take out the garbage. Mow the lawn. Balance the checkbook. We can make our own babies (using technology), and even that is evolving. The last argument for why men are useful might be gone. Kinda reminds me of the Laurel and Hardy movie where they landed on a planet of only women- remember that?
My swubby- that’s sweet hubby- is invaluable to me for many reasons. And, none of those reasons include his genetic pool.
Is your spouse essential and why?
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Putting ME back into Mother!