What role does loyalty play in marriage?
May 3, 2008
This is the third and final entry in the series on Duma Key book review. I delayed because the conversation will be much richer if folks have had a chance to read the book. That unthinkable accident happens pretty close to the start of the book. For those of you who haven’t read it yet, Stephen King poses an interesting question about loyalty in marriage. Namely, how much loyalty does one spouse owe another?
Most of us would like to think that we’d stick by our mates through thick and thin, right? That law or religion will bind us until ‘death do us part’. But, there are circumstances and feelings that call that into question. Suppose your mate is chronically ill, incapacitated or mentally ill, would you want out? What if he or she wasn’t truly the person you thought you were getting, would that make a difference?
I faced this myself when my husband-then fiance- faced back surgery that left him without feeling in his legs. Happily, we married and he recovered to a large degree. I had doubts but never thought of breaking my promise, although I completely understand after 18 years as a mediator that there are situations that call for that.
Where do you draw the line?
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