Which Comes First: Relationship or the kids?
February 13, 2008
My first marriage was all about the kids. Our relationship died and today we connect ONLY around kid issues, and not too often at that. Second time around, I’m squarely focused on making the relationship not only work, but sing. Although I haven’t said that directly to the kids, somehow they seem to know and respect that.
That desire to see our marriage as a ‘work in progress’, to actively seek the input of others, and continually ask the hard questions led me to create my new blog, www.thismarriagething.com. I may be wrong, but I think everyone can benefit from talking about this complex, evolving thing called marriage.
So, where do you put your faith, time and energies: your spouse or kids?
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I think the best thing I can do for my kids is to love my wife. Being a good father STARTS with being a good husband. I show my kids how much I love them by loving my wife.
Couldn’t agree more Ryan-when Mom’s happy, everyone is happy. No doubt would have that being a good wife is her #1 job, too
What does that mean exactly, a “good wife” or a “good husband”? I am 24 and have been married and clueless for about a year and am about to be a mother. I really want to know what exactly a good wife does.
Laura, congrats on your marriage and pregnancy.
Part of what this site is about is figuring that question out. It changes for each of us, depending on our values and strengths, although there are some general parameters for ‘a good spouse’.
This is such an intriguing question, let’s throw it open to everyone,ok